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A Jilted Roommate, A Jilted Boyfriend, and a Jilted Knee
Dear Ms. Meniscus,
I just moved in to my friend's house, we are two women, she talks about me on the phone, I hear her talk to a mutual friend, that I 'comment on her watching certain movies, that she wants to watch movies 'to laugh'. She told me her daughter's husband would help me set up my dvd/vcr and now I hear on the phone she tells the mutual friend that she thinks that the husband Will not help me with my dvd set up. My friend/roommate talks constantly and loud, one day she's UP, the next she's DOWN...talking about me. I'm a giving person, but this roommate asked me to pay her 6 mos rent in advance- 'to help ME out'. This is funny and strange, right?
-Rancorous Roomie
Dear Rancorous Roomie,
Ms. Meniscus doesn't find the anecdotes you related so amusing that she is falling off of her chair, but she acknowledges that your roommate situation is indeed rather strange. However, the old saying that it takes two to tango seems to apply here. You friend talks about you to her friend, you talk about your friend to yours truly, your friend's daughter's husband may or may not talk about helping set up the dvd/vcr player…in other words, communication is occurring but in very indirect and ineffective ways. Ms. Meniscus advises you to sit down with your roomie, not just to discuss the latest episode of ‘Sex and the City' and that crazy Carrie Bradshaw's latest antics, or the ketchup stain on the placemat, or the way the shower curtain hangs, but to discuss interpersonal relations and how your living situation could be improved. In the meantime, do Ms. Meniscus a favor, and be firm in not doing excessive favors [i.e. paying 6 months of rent in advance] for someone who's Chatty Cathy by day, Catwoman by night.
Dear Ms. Meniscus,
I have been with my long time boyfriend on and off for almost 4
years. (high school sweetheart) Lately I've been wanting to try new
things, although I love my boyfriend very much and care for him deeply. I still want to be with him, but at the same time I'm 20 and in a 4 year relationship. Recently I've cheated on him, and I don't know what to do. Help!
-Yesterday's Hot Lunch
Dear Yesterday's Hot Lunch,
Well, girlfriend, you say you've been wanting to try new things, and you did, in cheating on your boyfriend. You've already acted on that instinct, so it must be pretty strong. If you're cheating on someone and still don't know what to do, Ms. Meniscus advises you to look up and read the writing in the sky that apparently everyone else is reading but you; that is to say, you and he don't belong together, at least not at this point in time. If you can't treat someone you love very much with at least a modicum of respect, then that speaks volumes. Your “boyfriend” deserves to know that you've tasted forbidden fruit and think you're too juvenile for monogamy.
Dear Ms. Meniscus,
I am 20 and uninsured and apparently have some kind of tear in the meniscus of my left knee. I can walk fine, but running is a
problem. Do you know of any alternative treatments or inexpensive means of helping it heal?
-Eponymous Injury
Dear Eponymous Injury,
Thank you for submitting your question, because it is a very important one. The thing is, however, that Ms. Meniscus does not dispense medical advice. It wouldn't be prudent, as Ms. Meniscus does not possess a medical degree. The best advice she can give you is to seek real medical evaluation, perhaps at a free clinic, or, if you're in college, at the physical trainer's. It's possible that your condition could be evaluated for free, and then decide how to proceed from there. Since a knee problem could potentially affect your mobility for the rest of your life, it's essential that a medical professional examine you. Good luck.
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