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Gentlemen Prefer Blondes
Dear Ms. Meniscus,
My boyfriend's parents hate me even though I have only met them a few times. My younger sister was in a relationship with his older brother and she messed with his head the whole time. She hurt him and his whole family. My sister and I are nothing alike. Honestly. She has since split up with the brother. But, his parents hate me now because of this. They try to find any reason for us not to be together. My Boyfriend and I now have taken a "break" because of this. He is a really great person and it is not fair to either of us. We love each other very much. And I just don't know what to do. But, I refuse to be disrespected for something I didn't do. Please. I just don't know what to do.
-Sister Sister
Dear Sister Sister,
Ms. Meniscus believes that you are absolutely correct. You should not be disrespected for things that you have not done. Unfortunately, this is not your battle to fight. Only heartache and annoyance can come out of involving yourself in this conflict. Ms. Meniscus thinks that it is now up to your boyfriend to either stand up to his parents, or lose the woman he loves for good. If he truly loves you and your relationship is important to him, he will make the correct decision.
Dear Ms. Meniscus,
I've been dating a much older man for more than a year now (he's 47, I'm 25). We're very happy, and getting very serious. Our lifestyles are compatible. I think that the relationship is worth being widowed at an early age, but what I'm scared of is it not working out, because of his age, or any other reason, and feeling like I can't leave him, because he's too old to start over. I just want to keep on enjoying him and letting the relationship go where it might, but would I be stupid to marry him? Should I break it off now even though it means breaking both our hearts?
-Cradle
Dear Cradle,
Unfortunately falling in love with somebody is not an active choice that we make, it just happens. Ms. Meniscus believes that you should follow your heart. If you truly love this man, then stay with him and treasure the times that you have together. As we all know, life is short, tragedies strike all of the time, and even peers are lost as we travel down the road of life.
Dear Ms. Meniscus,
OK, over spring break I made a huge mistake. I went to a college party, got really drunk, and ended up sleeping with a guy I had only known for about two hours. Yes, I know, I am a fool. Anyway, the morning after he asked me if I would like to be in a relationship with him, and seeing as how I had no interest in him whatsoever I said I only wanted to be friends. Now I'm in some sort of terrible limbo. This guy calls me up constantly and leaves threatening messages on my machine saying he is going to either hurt me or kill me. He has already gotten the number of many of my guy friends threatening their lives as well. Now this is a problem in and of itself, but the strange thing is that sometime he will leave really nice messages. I have talked to him since then and he will usually say one of two things to me, "I love you", or "I'm going to end your life". If he was just threatening me I think I could call the police, but I feel terrible when he tells me things like 'I can't live without you'. To make matters worse he threatened to kill himself if I didn't date him. What should I do?
-Life or Not
Dear Life or Not,
To Ms. Meniscus, it sounds as though this young man has some serious psychological problems and is possibly a threat to himself or others. As you stated at the beginning of your letter, you only knew him for a couple of hours. Therefore, you really don't know what this young man is capable of doing. Anyone who threatens your life, or their own, should be taken very seriously. Even if this person at times seems rational, his actions have proven otherwise. Ms. Meniscus would advise you to avoid contact with this person and to seek legal advice on how to keep this person from harming or harassing you or others.
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