Sisterly Love, Trust Issues, and an Age Gap

Dear Ms. Meniscus,

My husband says he loves me like a sister, what does this mean, does this mean he's not in love? He says what's wrong with that because he loves his sister.

-Wifely Love

Dear Wifely,

Well, my dear, a sisterly love usually entails true affection and appreciation for the other person, so that part is positive. At the same time, however, might your husband be addressing a potential lack of sexual interest? Ms. Meniscus cannot, of course, say for sure, but such a sentiment phrased in such a way might denote such a thing. On the other hand, perhaps your husband is not familiar with the connotations of his statement, and he meant this expression very innocently and purely.

Dear Ms. Meniscus,

My boyfriend of 3 years is now living with a roommate and has seemingly begun to enjoy bachelor life again. There are girls who live in the house now, of course they're his roommates friends, and they constantly leave their clothes and personal belongings all over his bedroom. I have politely asked both girls to keep they're stuff in a specific area. They haven't and he hasn't made them respect my wished, now I'm starting to get pissed. These women aren't really of the same caliber as me so it makes it hard for me not be a little suspicious. They are friendly enough but they are staying in their place. What makes it worse is that whenever I bring it up to him he takes their side. Last week they slept on the couch in his room and because of this he didn't want to let me in the house. I am trying not to jump to conclusions and lose my temper but there is only so much I can take. I told him that he's going to let these allegedly "insignificant" women destroy our trust but he seems to feel as if it's all in my head and I'm acting irrationally. I don't want to dump him but he's running out of saving grace. HELP!

-Pissed Off

Dear PO'ed,

It sounds as if there are some serious trust issues occurring between you and your boyfriend. You do not trust his living situation, and it seems that he does not want you to regulate his space. Space is always good in a relationship, but when it causes this much grief for one person, it can be necessary to take a step back and reassess your situation. If he does not respect your wishes and makes no effort to respect your feelings, do you want to spend time with him? Why must these women sleep in his room? At the same time, if you do not trust him, perhaps he has detected this and does not want to capitulate to your demands. The best solution is to discuss the matter openly and decide whether he is a keeper from there.

Dear Ms. Meniscus,

I've been working at a local hospital for a while now, and there is an older man that works in another department. We interact everyday on a regular basis and are becoming closer. I am starting to like him as more than a friend but the thing is, he is about my father's age. Is this normal for me to feel this way for an older man?

-Confused

Dear Confused,

Love comes in all shapes and sizes, and more often that not, opposites attract. Sure, there are the couples that share all of the same interests, eat the same foods, drink the same potions at Starbucks; but are these people really that exciting? Um, no, girlfriend. Ms. Meniscus is just jesting, but in all seriousness, just because you and this fellow are different in age does not merit concern. It's terrific that you've forged a special bond with this individual.

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