She's shy, he's living a lie, and strippers, why?

Dear Ms. Meniscus,

I am not a very social person. When having one on one time with anyone, either on the phone or in person, we sit there in silence. I do fine in group settings, I just feed off other conversations. However, I'm afraid I can barely start a conversation, more or less keep one going. I'm pretty sure this is the reason why I lose a lot of friends and boyfriends as well. I'm not very outgoing and although less self-conscious than years before, I am still shy for reasons I have yet to figure out. What can I do to break my gloomy silence?

-Socially Impaired

Dear Socially,

You're a smart and thoughtful person. Most people have to learn how to exist in social situations. You didn't so you're going to have to learn now. I'd suggest a psychologist who can guide you through this. Let me know what happens.

Dear Ms. Meniscus,

I've been dating a girl now for nearly 6 years. We've been engaged for 2 years, and postponed our wedding a couple of time because things were just not working. Now it's time to re-set a date, but i still don't feel right about it. When I kiss her I feel nothing, and often wonder about other girls. I've been too afraid to break up with her, for fear of hurting her and disappointing everyone. It's easier to do nothing, but I feel my life is out of my control. I'm just not happy with her, and haven't been for a good while. I love her, but I'm not sure it's really true love. She clearly loves me a lot, and I feel terrible about the whole situation. To make thins worse, I'm not a native of this country, and will pretty much have to give up my life here if things don't work out. Any ideas?

-Afraid

Dear Afraid,

In order to give you the right answer I need to know how much of a pragmatist you are. If you really want to stay in the U.S., it looks like you'll have to deceive her, marry her and then divorce her in a year or so. You'll need to be able to live with yourself while you're living this married lie, and then after you break her heart and destroy a life she is trying to create. If you can't deal with all this, you'll have to call it off, go back to your native country and reassemble your life, but not your self-respect.

Dear Ms. Meniscus,

Well, I am kinda scared to go to a strip club, but all my co-workers are talking me into going and they just won't stop bringing it up. What do I do?

-Kinda Scared

Dear Kinda,

Strip clubs are like Volkswagens. You either like them or you don't. If you don't feel comfortable going, don't. If the pressure is too great to just say no, then negotiate with your co-workers. They have to do something you like before you will go to the strip club with them.

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