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Dear Ms. Meniscus,

One day my best friend (5 years) he tells me that he can't see me as a friend now and that he wanted something more. Ok, we had a relationship for a month and then he told me that he had sex with another woman, but he kept on saying that he loves me. I don't get it--how can he love me and then cheat on me? I don't know what to do. I don't know if I can forgive him even if I love him so much.

-Broken Heart

Dear Broken Heart,

You're in control here. Do you want to forgive him? If you do then get on with your life together. If you don't, dump him. There is no gray area here. Not deciding is dumb. It tell him you don't mind if he cheats.

Dear Ms. Meniscus,

Me and my best friend dated for about 3 months. Then we separated, I was looking for an apartment shortly afterward, I found a great place near my family,my work, it's cheap... perfect! But he needed a place as well, so we decided to get the place together, we sat down and discussed how this was a roommate situation, and that we were not getting back together I even started seeing other people. A couple weeks later the problems started, he constantly threatens to hurt the people I'm seeing. I'll wake up and he will be in my room fondling me!! (scary) He wakes me up at 7 a.m. because he "wants to lay with me" I tell him NO and we aren't doing anything along those lines anymore, then he always tries to say hurtful things to make me think I'm a horrible person...this has been going on for about 6 months now...I have asked him so many times to find a new home, but he refuses to leave!!! I just moved in and he is ruining everything. He puts holes in the walls, and bruises me when he tries to keep me here. He sees me getting ready to go out for the night and he corners me in my room and all hell breaks loose. Our friendship is torn to pieces. How can I get him to leave, he is a lease holder also. PLEASE HELP!!!!

-It's 7 am and he won't stop!

Dear 7 am,

You are being abused. As soon as you are alone, pack up your things and leave. NOW. Go to women's shelter, your family or a friend. Do not let him know where you are. Go to the police and file a complaint against him. Ask an attorney to contact the landlord and explain the situation. Get therapy. This is your problem, and you seem like an otherwise intelligent person, so now is the time to begin fixing it.

Dear Ms. Meniscus,

I have a lovely friend. But for the last two months, she's been abroad. She did not tell me about it. Nothing...nothing. Why? I can't imagine. Her mother, later, told me that she'll never come back. Please tell me why she would act like this?

-MMC02

Dear MMC02,

The only way you will find out is to talk with her. If her mother won't give you her address, you'll just have to wait for her to get in touch with you. It's very sad when this happens, but when she is ready to talk with you, she will. Until then, you'll have to move on.

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